Being frustrated with something or someone is a common experience. It is important that we learn to recognize and manage frustration, so it doesn't become the feeling that is driving all our decisions or actions. Maybe there is a change at your work That you have a hard time accepting or something unexpected happens and your vacation plans get put on hold.
Start by acknowledging your feelings for what they are and then use healthy ways to express them. Talk to friends, then problem solve a new plan in the changed context you have. Being frustrated is a common experience but don't let it control your actions. To cope, try shifting your thinking by asking these few questions:
- What does this current situation have to teach me that will help me in the future?
- What practices can I put in place now, so I come out on the other side a better person?
- What are some ways I can serve my community?
Focusing on questions like these will shift your focus from what is wrong onto hope and growth. Having a sense that you are learning and growing as a person can help offset your frustration.
- Take a class offered at the art center or county extension office.
- Read biographies or topics you've wanted to learn about.
- Watch inspirational movies, TED talks or videos.
- Meet with friends or join an interest group or club.
- Spend time everyday investing in yourself and you will find new energy and a shift in your thinking.
Experiencing accomplishment can help you feel empowered and reduce frustration. Set personal goals for today, this week, and this month. For example:
- Today I want to take someone I know who is grieving a loss out for coffee.
- This week I want to exercise three times.
- This month I want to read two books.
Focus on what you can control and the things you can’t have much less impact on your mood.
-Jerry Strausbaugh, EdD, LPCCS
